She is hoping to belong to you, to find her part. To play.
Isn’t it so, that the tender chambered shape inside is clear like this, a belly full of breath where she gambols through in ribbons, giggling?
Category Archives: therapeutic photography
Window Seat
I made a deal with the camera. I said, I have to take pictures today sitting down, because I am sick.
Ok.
The books made a deal with me. They said, give us those buttons and we’ll sit here in the window for you.
Ok.
Now you make a deal with the picture. Say, I will grant you three wishes – simply tell me what they are and they will come true.
And then wish for everything to be just like this.
Ok.
Sibling Violets
I tend to think in terms of “we” – in terms of “one for each.” And yet in the murk of sibling rivalry, I first size up the bigger half, and decide if I want it. Oh, yes, there is such a thing – a bigger half. Split a sandwich between any non-identical twins under the age of 8, and ask them. It’s always obvious which is the bigger half; and the curse of getting the smaller half is in no way cured by the triumph of the receiving the larger half.
“She got more than me.” It doesn’t matter who says it.
“Give your sister a bite of your sandwich,” Mother says, reaching toward your plate to even the score. Or worse:
“You can have an extra cookie. Now eat your lunch.”
At this point, feelings may simmer, or explode. There is no justice in this world, as your permanent, undetachable other self (who is always stealing what you want the most) continues munching what should be YOUR sandwich – or tries to grab YOUR extra cookie for herself. Or, most cruelly of all, eludes the conflict altogether, shrugging off her tinier portion with an escape artists’ precision, spoiling the taste of all that extra peanut butter and jelly with her indifference.
Bay Light Good Fortune
People like to say that you make your own luck, but tulips and peonies and the particular cast of sunlight bouncing around between the Pacific Ocean and the stucco walls of Berkeley tell a different story. Such luck can be hatched or seized, but never made. Maybe I spend too much effort trying to keep that distinction in mind, and I lose out on the hopeful side of hunger.
On the other hand, I did follow the directions I found in my fortune cookie: You will attend an unusual party and meet someone important. So when an invitation presented itself to follow a friend to a gathering of Kung Fu meets Mathemeticians, I went – hoping, like any Cinderella, to meet Someone Important.
And I will tell you what was so unusual about that party. Perhaps because I wanted to find out if my Dessert Oracle was accurate, I carefully listened to new jokes and stories, following along until there was a moment when I felt a “connect.” And of course the more I listened, the more obvious it became: Everyone there was important. Even, maybe, me.
Isn’t that lucky?
In the Beginning
There were only a very few minutes when you were in this world without me – April 4th, just about 9 a.m., Chicago, Ill. You braved the newness alone – the exhilarating coldness of air meeting lungs, the whiteness of light engulfing vision all at once. But then I caught up to you. And when I did, I know I felt that I was the one who was no longer alone. That was fifty years ago, today.
Thanks for waiting for me, honey. I owe you one.
Tulippy Twosday
April Fools – you thought I wouldn’t have a picture for today, didn’t you? Instead, today it is Tulippy Twosday!
(I hope you are not getting sick of the soft focus. I need all the dreaminess I can get…)
Multiply Choice
In this picture, I love the soft, indistinct words, the smeared edges of light changing the baby’s face from china into rubbed pastel. I made a similar image, sharply focussed on these features :
You’d think it would be easy to admit I prefer to live with blurry vision. Why is it so hard to choose?
Because I am afraid of choosing the “wrong” one. Because I want you to like it, too. You are here, after all, visiting my internet home. What will you think of a picture where nothing is clear? Don’t you want to be absolutely sure what you are seeing?
These images aren’t drafts and they aren’t revisions. It still mystifies me that my brain shut up long enough for me to hear them breathe out their whispered desire to become reality. They are different answers to different questions, and I don’t exactly understand their language. How can I know what purpose they have come for?
Grateful Challenged
This tree is putting on quite a show. It’s the only one with berries, a brazen red surprise, surrounded by the hollow remains of tall grasses and silver stalks of spent milkweed. I’ve been trying to get to know it but the wind always seems to get there first, shifting the network of shapes and lines before I can see anything. Finally, today I just gave up. I stuck the phone in front of the reddest branch and wished upon a star for something pretty to happen.
I also bought a notebook today, to write thank yous in. It seems so obvious, why didn’t I think of it before? (Because Oprah did, that’s why. Damn. I forgot that.)
Like I said on day one, giving thanks all month long promised to challenge me. If all you wanted to hear were the good parts, you might want to skip ahead to the end. Let me know what you find when you get there. I’m still sorting this out, myself.
Grateful And Then
Today’s picture isn’t in light of giving thanks all month long. It’s just the shadow of this morning’s sunrise.
Its so hard that I feel grateful to people who also have really hurt me. (I don’t mean some kind of bullshit silver lining “I feel grateful they hurt me, it made me a better person.” I hate that.)
Being hurt doesn’t spoil my thankfulness. I almost wish it did. I’m very clear about the 2 or 3 people I know I can’t forgive. Instead, I have to live with the complications of love and disappointment. Just like you do, with me.
Mostly, though, its love.
Grateful Lull
Everybody was happy to see the sun today. At the pond behind the library, birds still shelter, crowding the trees with silhouettes almost indistinguishable from the curled up leaves that cling to the branches. They sing enthusiastically, maybe to keep the growl of the wind at bay. It is a sweet surprise to hear such a thick cluster of voices in the cold, fresh air.
I know exactly how the birds feel. Everyday, I have so much to do, and I know I’ll never finish it all before this lull is over. It takes a lot of discipline to make sure I take a walk. Anything, the slightest hint of an errand, can seem so much more important than facing up to the fact that I can’t do everything. Even though it is risky to be unemployed three Mondays in a row, I have to remember: Giant maple leaves matter, too.
I wanted you to see – it really is so beautiful here.
what is beautiful remains 