Well, I just wanted to make you some Valentines, floating hearts of thought and chirps of love across the beyond.  Things aren’t different and I know that, but the wish doesn’t go away.  It’s like having a drunken relative who thinks another cocktail will improve the party.  You can take away the car keys so they don’t hurt anything (harm reduction), but it isn’t your job to argue.  It only makes you both sad.