It makes sense that sometimes we feel like going away to find ourselves. We can be quite shy animals, and sometimes it is best to approach our inner world sideways, by increments. Partly this is because we are not always right in our conclusions about what is happening with us. We feel we want to look at the situation straight on, but maybe that is just another way of punishing ourselves to avoid really taking the blame. I don’t know about you but I have found that strategy a useful way of hiding, more than once. Away from home, though, it’s harder to avoid being where you are, even if you feel nervous about missing the bus or getting lost. You focus on why you are here, whether you are momentarily pleased or not. And often, you let people help you. This may be the most alien moment of all.